Our lives are a series of moments. Each second is a simultaneous beginning and ending of an unfathomable range of moments made up of an equally unfathomable range of criterion. The moments with the most impact however, are defined by our relationship to them. The relation we have to the moments of our lives define the impact. Therefore, the moments with the most impact are those which are performed purposely towards the desired relations.
There are a number of ways we can relate to the moments of our lives:
Active disregard for others
We can spend each moment selfishly asking ourselves, “what do I get out of this moment” or by possessives, “this moment is my own”. These are examples of actively disregarding our relation to others and the bidirectional impact we have on each other.
Insincere regard for others
We can spend each moment looking at how we can show others we care more for them and less for ourselves. This is actually rooted in selfishness (usually defined as fulfillment). Here we have nothing more than a managed perception stemmed from the desire for external validation.
Balanced consideration of others
We can spend each moment coming up with a “healthy balance” between ourselves and others. This one is simply misguided. There is no in between as there is no actual distinction to use for defining the considerations to balance without ignoring our connections to each other.
Active understanding of our relations to others
We can leverage each moment for the greatest impact to each moment. By understanding our relation to others we can leverage the power that lies within us through the moments we provide for ourselves, and those provided to us by external circumstances.
The examples provided above are simply targets to direct our connectivity. There is more to this, however, than mere direction. Our connectivity is actually defined by a number of things primarily made up by the functional roles our connects play and the confinement that this approach to relationships forces us to live within.
We need to consider our daily impact on our relationships. Our impact is far from limited to what is in front of us. We make an impact on the world every moment we live. It is not only us, not only our direct contacts and recent acquaintances, it is also the impact that our connections have on others.
This is not simply a taste of transitive impact. Our impact is not something that can be inherited. Its effects abound, felt through those we touch from the most compassionate to the kamikaze. This in turn envelopes others in a similar way. The impact we have on each moment of our lives forever alters each subsequent moment.
Our relationships are not generally thought of as connected. Rather they are placed in categories such as family or colleague. The extent of the relation is limited to the functional role of the relationship such as brother, father, painter, assistant, etc. As we further the division, increasing the number of pigeonholes we can live within, the less connected we become.
What if we could connect to those outside of the functional relationships in our lives? What if we could perform regardless of our imposed divisions? Disregard our functional roles as they relate to ourselves and others. Look at others as not only a brother, sister, family or foe; not writer, culprit, or Average Joe. Rather a collective relation made up of distinct individuals with their own impact.
Our impact on ourselves is the epicenter of our impact on the world. This ultimately means our relations are networked. To fully realize our network we need to connect the dots. Connecting the dots of our relations means recognizing our impact on our neighbors near and far. Only then can we start to see our relation mesh, the relational fabric that connects everyone and everything throughout the multiverse.